Written By Derovai
June 20, 2018, 12:53 a.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Reigna
"Is it ever acceptable to lie? Is it better to be polite or to express what you really think of the actions and beliefs of someone else?"
These two questions aren't really the same thing.
These two questions aren't really the same thing.
Written By Saoirse
June 20, 2018, 12:46 a.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
For the record, Bliss, Luca, Tikva, and I are all in cahoots.
Just in case we were all worried about the Very Serious Merits of Dueling again.
Just in case we were all worried about the Very Serious Merits of Dueling again.
Written By Luca
June 20, 2018, 12:27 a.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Ainsley
I'll take one.
Written By Reigna
June 19, 2018, 11:45 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Ainsley
I know only too well your anxieties, your Highness. I feel them as well. Wanting to protect them, each and every one. But the best thing we can give them is a place to be loved. We have heard them. Listened, taken down the lists. Hopefully their burdens are fewer, even if our shoulders are more bowed.
Know you have my deepest respect and admiration.
Know you have my deepest respect and admiration.
Written By Ainsley
June 19, 2018, 11:27 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
The children are ready for homes, they would even like to have homes... families. It would be cruel of me to keep them still-- I can't devote, forever, the amount of time they need. And my own children are not restful companions for children who need a lot of human attention, but gentle... oh so gentle and quietly calm attention.
But gods as my witnesses, these children will break me. Giving them over into the care of others...
I must do it, for their well being.
But I don't like it one bit.
But gods as my witnesses, these children will break me. Giving them over into the care of others...
I must do it, for their well being.
But I don't like it one bit.
Written By Cambria
June 19, 2018, 11:22 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Two years.
One new Mazetti.
Zero deaths in the family.
One new Mazetti.
Zero deaths in the family.
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 9:27 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Fairen
I should hope that one never need find out if I were wearing undergarments or not, but certainly with such danger of Arx wide exposure, were I in fact brave enough to wear such a fashionable garment, I would hope I would have equally fashionable underclothes.
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 9:22 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Reigna
An excellent suggestion Countess! Indeed it would keep the sheet firmly settled against the body however, unless it is a particularly large sheet draped with far more skill that I believe I possess, and true there might be one truly skilled in bedsheet draping whom I have not yet met, or have met and simply are unaware of this previously undeclared but significant skill, it would show far more of my person than I think the rest of Arx could take.
I fear I will never wear a sheet with as much skill as Prince Luca managed to display.
I fear I will never wear a sheet with as much skill as Prince Luca managed to display.
Written By Fairen
June 19, 2018, 9:19 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Coraline
I would hope undergarments are also a part of the consideration for this attire. In case of a stiff breeze.
Written By Reigna
June 19, 2018, 9:16 p.m.(1/17/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Coraline
The application of a belt in a contrasting color would secure the seasilk drape in place to ensure proper modesty, your highness.
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 8:45 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Luca
An excellent suggestion however, one good stiff breeze and it would no longer be so modest. I fear I must shy away from this very fashion forward fashion and instead seek something a little less...exciting. However should you wish to model such fashions I hear that there is a great deal of prestige to be garnered!
I do agree with the seasilk though, that is most certainly very chic.
I do agree with the seasilk though, that is most certainly very chic.
Written By Carissa
June 19, 2018, 8:42 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Pasquale
I'm not sure what to make of my kin-by-oath, Pasquale. A good man, to be sure, and the best possible choice to be made Voice. I just think I should get to know him better, before my tongue--or my journal!--get me into trouble.
(Let's be honest. I'll get into trouble regardless... I'll try hard not to, though! Either with him or anyone else, promise.)
(Let's be honest. I'll get into trouble regardless... I'll try hard not to, though! Either with him or anyone else, promise.)
Written By Luca
June 19, 2018, 8:41 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Coraline
I am a big supporter of the bedsheet as a matter of fashion. So close to a dress, yet so far away. You never look as if you are trying too hard, but you still get to retain your modesty. And if you wear it in seasilk? The height of luxury, I can assure you of this.
Don't take my word for it. Go ahead, try it out.
Don't take my word for it. Go ahead, try it out.
Written By Carissa
June 19, 2018, 8:39 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Some of the upcoming events look very interesting. Skirt and Gown Night, and the Tea Talk, especially perk my interest.
I hope I can make it to one of them, if not both!
I hope I can make it to one of them, if not both!
Written By Katarina
June 19, 2018, 8:35 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Example One: One does not have to say they are, "Fine and well." There are a number of responses to be given to achieve the desired effect of not brokering any discussions on her current emotional duress. It is one's choice whether they lie or not, and to what degree, Countess Keaton.
Example Two: The reason behind someone offering you unsolicited advice matters not. Although you do not feel grateful for the advice, there are also responses one can give that acknowledges the receipt of it without falling into the trap of false platitudes.
Managing such responses are not an easy feat, mind you. I often find myself acknowledging what is said to me and saying nothing more on it out of fear of causing offense or a desire to be spared of having to deal with a source of aggravation more than I have to.
I do not know that the term of social contract is necessarily the appropriate application for the situation, so much as unspoken social habits & cues we've taken from previous generations simply because we've witnessed it. If that makes sense?
Example Two: The reason behind someone offering you unsolicited advice matters not. Although you do not feel grateful for the advice, there are also responses one can give that acknowledges the receipt of it without falling into the trap of false platitudes.
Managing such responses are not an easy feat, mind you. I often find myself acknowledging what is said to me and saying nothing more on it out of fear of causing offense or a desire to be spared of having to deal with a source of aggravation more than I have to.
I do not know that the term of social contract is necessarily the appropriate application for the situation, so much as unspoken social habits & cues we've taken from previous generations simply because we've witnessed it. If that makes sense?
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 8:35 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Fairen
Dearest cousin, I get the feeling that conversation with him would be both incredibly amusing and ultimately doomed. Besides, as handsome as I think he is I don't know that he would be any more pleased to be in a dress than I would.
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 8:33 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Nibbles McPita, my dashing mount, has decided that my head looks like a salt lick. I offer apples, I offer carrots, I offer anything I can think of, and while each of these is accepted with apparent enjoyment, winter stored though they may be, at the most inopportune times he decides to lick the back of my head. He still has a fascination with lipping my clothing, and has taken to prancing with me on his back, seriously....prancing. I thought he was older than colt stage but I think he is the eternal youth from what I have seen.
Still, when it is work time that horse /works/. I think if I were any enemy seeing him charging at me, I would run and keep on running. I just wish he would tone down the overly excited thing. I think he was trying to walk through the stall when I saw him this morning, it was a very good day for a ride though. That crisp winter air and the snow he seems to love snuffle in and bounce around on, it was a very cheerful and tired warhorse who went back to his warm hay and oats.
Still, when it is work time that horse /works/. I think if I were any enemy seeing him charging at me, I would run and keep on running. I just wish he would tone down the overly excited thing. I think he was trying to walk through the stall when I saw him this morning, it was a very good day for a ride though. That crisp winter air and the snow he seems to love snuffle in and bounce around on, it was a very cheerful and tired warhorse who went back to his warm hay and oats.
Written By Fairen
June 19, 2018, 8:32 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Coraline
Perhaps you could convince your partner to wear a fancy dress, while you wear a fancy tunic and trousers. As a form of exchange between the two of you.
Written By Coraline
June 19, 2018, 8:27 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
I can honestly say I never dreamed of weddings as a child. In fact, I usually drowned out all of those conversations with imaginary sword battles in my head while whoever it was droned on and on about the whole process. I did that a lot.....yes it was probably not the wisest course of action but hey, that stuff was boring! Anyway, now I find myself in a position of needing to figure out how this all works. Sorrel was very kind and suggested armor, which I immediately fell in love with, but I probably shouldn't because...well...Thrax.
So, I refuse to wear a dress unless a reason so incredibly persuasive manages to convince me that that idea is even in the realm of reality. As such what to wear to this thing? I am tempted to wear my usual tunic and trousers, I mean they function well enough on any other day, but I get the feeling that probably won't fly. So I likely need a fancier version to wear, but I have like one fashion and I am happy with that fashion normally so never had to think of another one. I am open to ideas and suggestions that do not involve skirts and dresses or showing off skin. Including my apparently irresistible ankles.
So, I refuse to wear a dress unless a reason so incredibly persuasive manages to convince me that that idea is even in the realm of reality. As such what to wear to this thing? I am tempted to wear my usual tunic and trousers, I mean they function well enough on any other day, but I get the feeling that probably won't fly. So I likely need a fancier version to wear, but I have like one fashion and I am happy with that fashion normally so never had to think of another one. I am open to ideas and suggestions that do not involve skirts and dresses or showing off skin. Including my apparently irresistible ankles.
Written By Reigna
June 19, 2018, 8:06 p.m.(1/16/1009 AR)
Relationship Note on Katarina
I tend to be in agreement with you on this, Princess Katarina. The person with the moral fortitude to give a painful but honest answer rather than the easier lie is the person who is more trustworthy. However, in this particular scenario, I was thinking something a bit less... dire.
When there is no real stake to the words, is it better to conform to socially expected falsehoods or instead maintain that brutal honesty. An example:
Our subject, let us call her... Lana. She is having a horrendous day. She has argued with her lover and feels wronged. She was dressed down by someone over something that she did in fact do incorrectly, though from Lana's perspective there was no other alternative. She runs into her High Lord in the market and when she is asked how she is... does she risk admitting that she is having a bad day and opening the conversation to additional questioning that leads to embarrassing topics, or does she simply say that she is fine and well?
Or, in another example, someone offers a suggestion that is both improbable and unhelpful, not from a desire to help, but because they simply feel that they know more than you do. Do you thank them, though you do not feel gratitude, or do you generate a conflict because they have irritated you?
I agree with your assessment that lies are most often based from self-interest. Avoiding trouble, shifting blame etc. But is the social contract of politeness an acceptable reason to force a smile, nod your head and avoid conflict if there is no real reason to start one?
I grapple with this at times. I do not like upsetting people. But I also do not like to lie. This often gets me in trouble, here within the whites.
When there is no real stake to the words, is it better to conform to socially expected falsehoods or instead maintain that brutal honesty. An example:
Our subject, let us call her... Lana. She is having a horrendous day. She has argued with her lover and feels wronged. She was dressed down by someone over something that she did in fact do incorrectly, though from Lana's perspective there was no other alternative. She runs into her High Lord in the market and when she is asked how she is... does she risk admitting that she is having a bad day and opening the conversation to additional questioning that leads to embarrassing topics, or does she simply say that she is fine and well?
Or, in another example, someone offers a suggestion that is both improbable and unhelpful, not from a desire to help, but because they simply feel that they know more than you do. Do you thank them, though you do not feel gratitude, or do you generate a conflict because they have irritated you?
I agree with your assessment that lies are most often based from self-interest. Avoiding trouble, shifting blame etc. But is the social contract of politeness an acceptable reason to force a smile, nod your head and avoid conflict if there is no real reason to start one?
I grapple with this at times. I do not like upsetting people. But I also do not like to lie. This often gets me in trouble, here within the whites.
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